I know there’s been some discussion as to The how, who, why’s etc with regard to Gangbang parties. I just wanted to share with You my experiences. I have been going to the Brizzybangers parties for some time now, have had an absolute blast, and met some amazing people along the way. The third birthday party was sensational. The crowd was a brilliant mix of newcomers and SeasonedBangers, and we all had a great time. Great food, great company and great sex! My reasons for going are perhaps different to others – I am happily married to a very sexy guy and part of our kinkier side is that he likes to be Cuckolded, and loves the idea of me being with multiple guys at a time while he remains at Home and waits for me to return. Once I am home, we then get together, and I tell him of my adventures. I needed to find a safe and welcoming environment for me to live out these fantasies of ours – and fortunately for me, I stumbled across Brizzybangers. So while I am part of a couple who is active together on the site, I attend parties as a single girl.
The word ‘gangbang’ conjures up many different images for different people, and I am sure there is some negative imagery that people associate with this aspect of the Lifestyle. I know that I was apprehensive about what I might find at a party, but figured I would NEVER know unless I went and saw for myself.
Driving to my first party, I had almost convinced myself that I would be the only person in a car, and would struggle to find a park amongst the 100 bikes that I envisaged would be pulled up along the street. I had thoughts of entering a house to find that I was the only woman among a sea of leather-clad ZZ Top lookalikes who would not let me go until they’d had their ‘fill’.....
HOW WRONG I WAS!
Every time I arrive at a party, I am immediately greeted warmly by the door staff, who are themselves experienced swingers/bangers. Once inside, I can check my handbag in with the bar staff, and then I move throughout the house saying hi to old friends and introducing myself to newcomers. Throughout the evening, I try and say hello to people as I walk through the party. This is for 2 reasons....while It may not show, I am usually nervous at the beginning of a party, and striking up a conversation with friendly people helps me drop my guard, and secondly, I assume that everyone else is nervous too - and I think a friendly face and greeting will also put them at ease.
Not long after the party begins, when most guests have arrived, the crowd is gathered together for a few minutes to go through the rules together. The BB admin Come with No ego, and have a great way of making all people feel welcome.
Some women are apprehensive about going – some questions often asked are:
“What if I am the youngest?”
“How do I know if I will find anyone who I am attracted to?”
“What if I don’t feel like Playing? I don’t want to do it just because I feel pressured”
“I am an average body type, and I don’t like those revealing clothes – will I look like the odd one out?”
My answers to these questions are easy. I am always among the youngest girls at the parties and have never had a problem hooking up with guys there. There are men and women from all walks of life, of all ages, sizes and races – This is a community who is non discriminatory with regard to who is and isn’t allowed to book, which makes for a wonderful mix of people. No guest is hand-picked by admin to attend, and the only thing stopping people from participating is themselves. I think each of us have our own inner and outer beautiful qualities – I also believe that a smile goes a long way. I go with a positive attitude, and NO expectation of how "lucky" I will get that night, and trust me, I've NEVER been disappointed. Most people dress in smart-casual clothes that they feel comfortable in, and some choose to go a step raunchier. Women tend to wear clothing to accentuate their good bits, and the men generally wear jeans and a nice shirt. I’ve never felt pressured to Play when I’m not ready, and the admin team have gone to great lengths to ensure that this doesn’t happen. There have been times when I get guys come up to me as soon as the rules are read, and asked if I want to play. Personally, I like to catch up with friends and meet new people in order to build up a rapport and settle into the party. After a short while, I usually go and check out what's happening, then find a room for myself and get ready to play. Having said that I like to spend a little bit of time getting into the ‘zone’, this is not for everyone. Some bangers are raring to go, and get straight into it as soon as the rules are read. At any given time of the night, you will find that there are people playing – quite a difference to alternative venues where there is often a lot of talk and drinking and no action.
For guys who are a little bit unsure as to how to approach Ladies at parties - if you're there at rule reading time, Suzy introduces the ladies, so you will know who we are. I don't think there's anything wrong with coming up and saying "Hi Muff I'm (insert name here), how you going? I'd love to play with you sometime tonight" (I will most likely say, "Hi (insert your name here), it's great to meet you. I'll let you know when I'm ready, but if I don't catch you and you see me playing, let me know you're there" A great way to get some friendships established before you get to a party is to spend some time in the banger chat room. I really love it when guys come up to me and say "Hi Muff, we've spoken in chat - I'm (insert your name here)." It gives me the opportunity to put a face to the Profile, and we'll take it from there.
A HINT FOR THE PEOPLE WHO ARE WORRIED ABOUT WHAT SORTS OF PEOPLE THEY WILL FIND AT THE PARTIES:Suzy always posts a list of the guests who have booked in advance of the party. Use this as a tool to go through profiles and find out what each person is looking for before you get there. I try and put as much info on about what I particularly like for this very reason. That way - you will know which people you will most likely appeal to and vice versa.
If you happen to ask a lady to play and get a knock back, I understand it's hard to deal with, but it's not necessarily because we think you're not our type, rather we may not be ready to play/have just been playing for ages and are having a break etc....Take it on the chin, and move on. If you're friendly, clean and smell good - chances are you'll be in luck. There is always someone at the party for everyone, and it's what you make it.
I was interested before and it piques my interest more and more.
May I ask a question? I would love to know how many partners you may have on one night at the parties? Of course, you can keep this to yourself and I will understand..
Have you ever been to a NSW or VIC gang bang? (I assume brizzy bangers is your club of choice)
Does your Hubby ever worry for you? Jeez too many questions... can you tell I want to know more?
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: wow - very informative but not scary at all!
I was interested before and it piques my interest more and more.May I ask a question? I would love to know how many partners you may have on one night at the parties? Of course, you can keep this to yourself and I will understand..Have you ever been to a NSW or VIC gang bang? (I assume brizzy bangers is your club of choice) Does your Hubby ever worry for you? Jeez too many questions... can you tell I want to know more?
Hi Paula
I don't mind answering your questions at all. The number of partners I have at parties varies depending on mostly what kind of week I have had leading up to it and how tired I am! I'm not a marathon runner, work full-time and have 4 Kids - so usually these external factors are the deciding factor in how active I am on a night. The lowest number of guys I have played with in one night is 7, while the highest is in the mid-30s (was a great night, I was feeling very frisky and very greedy. Consequently, I didn't think I would ever walk again!). The "record" for the most number of guys at a BB party is currently 48 - quite an effort!
There are some evenings when I have come across a few guys who I have really clicked with - and spent the night alternating between them and a couple of others.
I've not been to a NSW or VIC gangbang party - but if I got the opportunity, I would certainly love to.
The ages of the guys attending the parties start at 19 and go up from there, with a majority of guys being in their mid-30s to late-40s. I find with a ratio of 3 guys to 1 girl being booked(and often around 30 women attending, there is never a shortage of choice either way.
In the early days, my husband worried a lot more for me than he does now. This was mainly because before I went to my first party, we hadn't really set boundaries and rules of regular contact for the night. He felt some trepidation about me going again because he felt Left out and felt that I "glossed over" some of the important aspects of the night. Much of this feeling has now been dispelled since we have boundaries and more contact. I phone him at intervals throughout the night and whet his appetite for when I get home by telling him of my adventures. There are some things that I won't do while playing without my husband present - and we both came to these conclusions with relative ease. Once I am home, I give him as much information as I can about what I did while I was out and who I did it with. We have found since implementing these simple things, we have both enjoyed the experience a lot more.
If we didn't trust each other implicitly, we wouldn't continue to do it. We've both grown a great deal and learnt so much about each other in the time I've been going to the parties.
thank you for answering the questions, I have more!
How do you cope with multiple partners? I guess you must go through a lot of lube? I know i do and thats just one on one!
another thing I wondered is (talking to a few others too) I imagined that it was simply the blokes all getting themselves hard then just fucking you, but you mention "play", is it the case that some men only fuck you and some you play with (by play I mean foreplay, flirting and then fucking?) also how long do these parties last for?
The whole gangbang scene enthralls me - which is why i am so intrigued and ask so many questions. We have had numerous questions emailed to us about your piece and these ladies (and one man) want to keep "hidden" for now so... expect many more questions! If you would prefer not to spill your whole sexual life on here we will understand!
How would you feel if I was a participant in one of the gang bang parties. I'd been with half a dozen other women and then, became a nameless face pleasuring you.
Not a criticism, just an observation taking the thing to it's natural conclusion.
BTW, not suggesting it either. As you know I am more of a one on one sort of a guy.
How would you feel if I was a participant in one of the gang bang parties. I'd been with half a dozen other women and then, became a nameless face pleasuring you.
Not a criticism, just an observation taking the thing to it's natural conclusion.
BTW, not suggesting it either. As you know I am more of a one on one sort of a guy.
Oh that made me laugh - I know you too well and know you could never just "fuck without a future"! You need to get to know and trust first. Obviously once you go to a gang bang you get to know people - and you soon get regulars - so to answer your question... I would not mind you playing at all but with the same rules we always have with each other!
I would not want you pleasuring other THEN coming to me though.. in an ideal world I have you THEN you may be able to play with others This is probably as we would never be "faceless" with each other - make sense?
Just thought I would add to the perspective from one male's point of view. I'm a member of brizzbangers and have been to a number of their parties.
I'm in a loving partnership but she doesn't play while I do. Like muff we have a healthy understanding of each others desires and strange as it may seem to many, my playing has enhanced our relatrionship.
I was extremely nervous when I went to my first party, not knowing what to expect in terms of the sort of people who would go to such an event and of course, from the perspective of being about to actually fulfill a life-long fantasy - one that I thought would remain a fantasy!
The answer to the first issue was that I found lots of people just like me! I agree totally with muff, the admin are amazingly friendly, helpful and supportive, particularly Suzy who could see how nervous I was! No doubt she sees us "nervous" types at every party. And the players were all lovely. I had a great time chatting about all sorts of things, not just the subject of the night's activities.
When it came to taking the plunge I was welcomed into a few sessions on that first night and had a great time taking my turn and "offering" my services. I have to admit my first night nerves and the realization I was living out my fantasy meant that I didn't "perform" at all well, but the ladies were great about it and the other guys just took it in their stride.
Since that first night I went to many other parties and eventually became more comfortable in the scene. It really is a wonderful feeling to lose the inhibitions and just enjoy the company of others in this unique interaction. Let me say that this isn't the usually perceived vision of a gangbang where the lady is a victim but rather a mutually giving, multiple partner involvement where the lady is usually in charge. We do exactly what she wants!
I took a break from the parties for awhile but the "urge" has returned! My partner has given me her approval and I'm looking forward to my first night out again!! Can't wait to get back home and share it all with her.
thank you for answering the questions, I have more!
How do you cope with multiple partners? I guess you must go through a lot of lube? I know i do and thats just one on one!
another thing I wondered is (talking to a few others too) I imagined that it was simply the blokes all getting themselves hard then just fucking you, but you mention "play", is it the case that some men only fuck you and some you play with (by play I mean foreplay, flirting and then fucking?) also how long do these parties last for?
The whole gangbang scene enthralls me - which is why i am so intrigued and ask so many questions. We have had numerous questions emailed to us about your piece and these ladies (and one man) want to keep "hidden" for now so... expect many more questions! If you would prefer not to spill your whole sexual life on here we will understand!
Paula
Hi Paula (and others)
Lube is always handy, as is a good imagination, nice warm showers and a love of fun to get me through a night.
As I indicated in my previous post, I like to have some social Intercourse before I participate - This involves flirting (I also use chat as a way of getting to know people).
When I go into a room to play - I usually take a couple of guys who I am interested in being with. I then start with them, by perhaps giving oral to both and then continuing to suck, while the other fucks me and so on...
I really want to stress that at all times I feel in control of who I play with (guys must ask if they want to join in - some I accept, some I decline - or I will invite people in on the fun). The guys are incredibly respectful of the women at these parties, and this is what makes them something that I keep returning to.
It's certainly not everyone's Cup of tea, and can be quite confronting for some people. I'd be happy to answer questions if people want to contact me through my profile here if they don't want to publicly ask in the forum.
Hi All,
We consider ourselves friends of Muff and actually helped her break the ice at her first BB party.We go as a couple and both play individually while there, with Oldhub keeping an eye on Youngwife and others such as Muff that we look out for.In almost 3 years we have never had cause to be worried by anything that happens,and for sure Suzy and her team control any unpleasantness before it starts. While Youngwife isnt quite as active as Muff, she always plays, always has fun. In passing our ages are 56/34, a perfect example of the age ranges at the party.Like Muff, we are very happy to assist with any answers, and further, offer to any Newbies a Watching eye and initial support.
Hi Muff you have certainly got questions flying at you, and thanks so much for you honest and open answers.
I have some of my own ..
Do many women loose their nerve? , and what happens if you decide not to play ,is there an area for 'chickens'?
Howdy Kitty!
Yes, certainly some women (and men) lose their nerve, and many of them either choose to watch the action, or spend time in the social areas. There are of course the people who decide immediately that it's not for them and leave, but there aren't too many of those.
Hi All,
We consider ourselves friends of Muff and actually helped her break the ice at her first BB party.We go as a couple and both play individually while there, with Oldhub keeping an eye on Youngwife and others such as Muff that we look out for.In almost 3 years we have never had cause to be worried by anything that happens,and for sure Suzy and her team control any unpleasantness before it starts. While Youngwife isnt quite as active as Muff, she always plays, always has fun. In passing our ages are 56/34, a perfect example of the age ranges at the party.Like Muff, we are very happy to assist with any answers, and further, offer to any newbies a watching eye and initial support.
Looks like i've posted that one, but Old hub/Young Wife are two people who are also regulars at the party (been going much longer than me) and are a good source of information.
I just wanted to clarify - does your wife go to the parties? If so what does she do while there and not playing?
Is it really ok to just watch and not play? Obviously you would need to let others know what your intentions were, but do many do that?
As a male in the party how many women would you pleasure in one night?
It seems to me (something I never realized) that the women are in complete control at all times and can choose their partners for the fun - if you are approached (male or females) how do you say no kindly without hurting the other person and .. (I have so many damn questions) do the ladies ever get it on with each other?
Great topic and great people for answering all these questions!
Do male partners ever go along to support their female partner. I'm imagining a situation where a woman's usual partner is present and may or may not participate as she desires.
No my wife doesn't go to the parties....but we usually go through the whole evening when I get home. She wants to hear about all the experiences I have had. We share everything. At this stage she just doesn't want to experience this form of sexual encounter for herself but understands that this is something that I do want to experience. What underpins everything is our deep love for each other and with that comes the trust to allow some physical "Exploration" outside of our relationship. But as I said, we talk about it an share.
As for watching versus playing, no one pays any attention to that. If you are there to watch that is fine, if you are there to play, that is fine. You don't have to declare intentions either way. Each party usually has its fare share of nervous beginners who can't bring themselves to shed their clothes and embark on the adventure...and that's fine. They either chat with the other party goers and tuck in to the great food on offer or watch in the various rooms. No need to explain yourself to anyone. When you feel comfortable that's when you join in. For us guys that starts with entering in to a particular room and asking if its OK to join in...and then take your turn. For the ladies there is obviously no shortage of willing partners and so it's up to them to make the first move.
As for how many women do we males pleasure in an evening?...well speaking for myself, there is an obvious physical limit which doesn't come anywhere near that of the ladies!! For me that was 4 in one night but I'm sure for some of the other guys that would be more...or less. From my perspective I also get a big kick out of pleasuring so I have been involved in many multiple body engagements where my sole contribution has been in the pleasuring capacity.
I can't imagine any of the ladies at the parties I have been at saying no thanks in any way other than in a non-critical context.
Paul - every little helps - I think if you do not understand something or if you are interested in something you should try and find out all about it - that is what this site is all about!
I think Luke and I need to go and interview first hand a GB club here in sydney - any ideas of a good one like Brissy bangers?
I have to sat the whole idea was not one I would have really gone for before but now I find I want to know everything there is!
It sounds like everyone has a Ball (or 12) and just like Swinging everyone feels comfortable and secure throughout it all..
So how long are the parties?
Also are you aware of the watchers - how many of those are there?
Where are the parties held and what is the set up like? The above are questions sent in from a reader who wants to remain a "ghost" but lives in Brissy!
Paula, I am not aware of other clubs like ours operating anywhere in Australia. Most other gb's I have seen offered are about one or maybe 2 or 3 women and condoms seem to be actively discouraged, they are compulsory at ours. I also think we are the only one to have our own site complete with forums, profiles and an active chat room. When you are in the zone and have 3 or 4 men all over you the watchers are not on your radar Lol There are usually a few watchers observing any playthat is happening, in some rooms there are a lot watching if the action is particularly hot. Some are happy to watch, I guess they treat it like alive sex show. Our parties are usually from 7 pm and end at midnight. It has been saidthat is far too short but actual play time is more than usually happens atclubs and house parties. At those they may start at 8pm but actual playrarely begins before 11pm and they usually wind up by about 2am. Oursstart at 7pm and by 8pm the party is in full Swing, therefore, actual playtime is 4 hours, more than usually found at other swing events. we hold our parties at RTZ's which is a fab luxury home set up forswingers parties. We usually have about 12 play areas available, somerooms have up to 3 double beds in them. There are a lot of socializingspaces too, near the bar and pool table, the dining room, the level between the dining and the stage and the dance floor area. at the gb's cosplay is the aim we usually have a bed on the stage and at times some inthe dance floor area too. Our parties are not for those that want to danceand or do the show pony thing on the pole lol
now to Luke Like any swingers party ours have couples with varying rules that theyhave for their play. Some stick together and never play unless both are inthe same room, most separate and play separatly coming together forbreathers now and then and ofcourse to go home :-) This is a verydifferent style of swinging to the old fashioned couple on couples thingwhere many couples only play with other couples and often only in the sameroom. We always say this is all about the women, what they want from whomthey want it. The guys are supportive of the needs of their women,whatever that entails. In my and many other womens experiences of traditional swinging, there isusually someone who compromises even if just a little. It is rare to find4 people all hot for each other. I always found there was one a littleless keen but you sort of took One for the team so as n
I know there’s been some discussion as to 
The how, who, why’s etc with regard to 
Driving to my first party, I had almost convinced myself that I would be the only person in a car, and would struggle to find a park amongst the 100 bikes that I envisaged would be pulled up along the street. I had thoughts of entering a house to find that I was the only woman among a sea of leather-clad ZZ Top lookalikes who would not let me go until they’d had their ‘fill’.....
My answers to these questions are easy. I am always among the youngest girls at the parties and have never had a problem hooking up with guys there. There are men and women from all walks of life, of all ages, sizes and races – This is a community who is non discriminatory with regard to who is and isn’t allowed to book, which makes for a wonderful mix of people. No guest is hand-picked by admin to attend, and the only thing stopping people from participating is themselves. I think each of us have our own inner and outer beautiful qualities – I also believe that a smile goes a long way. I go with a positive attitude, and NO expectation of how "lucky" I will get that night, and trust me, I've NEVER been disappointed. Most people dress in smart-casual clothes that they feel comfortable in, and some choose to go a step raunchier. Women tend to wear clothing to accentuate their good bits, and the men generally wear jeans and a nice shirt. I’ve never felt pressured to 
If you happen to ask a lady to play and get a knock back, I understand it's hard to deal with, but it's not necessarily because we think you're not our type, rather we may not be ready to play/have just been playing for ages and are having a break etc....Take it on the chin, and move on. If you're friendly, clean and smell good - chances are you'll be in luck. There is always someone at the party for everyone, and it's what you make it. 
wow - very informative but not scary at all! 
If you would prefer not to spill your whole sexual life on here we will understand! 
This is probably as we would never be "faceless" with each other - make sense?
Paul - every little helps - I think if you do not understand something or if you are interested in something you should try and find out all about it - that is what this site is all about!