| How to Avoid Bad Experiences |
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| Written by Luke | |
| Thursday, 10 January 2008 | |
  It's a few ideas for people new to The Lifestyle to avoid bad experiences. These might be useful if You were going to a meet and greet or a couples club for the first time ...We'll update the list soon based on more recent experiences. Reviewing the list, we wouldn't agree now with everything that's on it (for example n. Signals) ... a) It is not a good idea to break the way you have previously agreed with your partner to b) Avoid people who've had to much to c) Avoid any couple where there is the slightest sign of tension between partners. Especially disparate interest (her interested, him not, or vice versa); d) Maybe avoid couples who are both too far from us in age (our preference maybe not everyone's); e) Maybe avoid inexperienced couples (inexperience+inexperience=not always nice, experience+inexperience=nice) f) Communicate with all playmates. Tell them your experience, what turns you on, how far you are willing to go and be as honest as possible. g) Avoid any couple where the female partner isn't leading the way.If the girl isn't 100% comitted then 'your just wasting your time'. h) Don't go to your favorite club the night AFTER a big party. It's might be empty and the hot tub will be cold because they had to empty it from the night before :) i) Guys, not everyone can go non-stop for 7 hours. There are little blue or yellow ways your doc can help. The embarassment of explaning is worth the benefit. j) Watch people who don't seem to be interested in their partner. Your interests may not be high on their list either. k) Be absolutely honest with potential play partners/couples on online sites. Make sure your l) Guys be supportive, but let the girls organise the play/meet and let them take the lead. Girls just seem to do it better. Possibly there are just more intuitive. m) Make sure you know exactly what you want. Otherwise how is anyone else going to know. n) Use signals. It's difficult to find time or step away to discuss how you feel about another couple or the playtime activities (not to mention slightly uncomfortable for everyone else). We use a scratch on the palm if we're not interested, a squeeze of the hand if we are interested, and a friends very unique name as a safe word if we don't like something, need the activities to stop, or if we generally just want to get away from a situation as quickly as possible. o) You'll probably be more comfortable in a club or at a convention if you are starting out. You are more likely to encounter people with similar goals. p) Don't negotiate boundaries whilst receiving a blow job. It will sway your judgement. If it doesn't then certain questions gotta be asked. q) Don't let your partner tie you up naked and walk away in the club when there is a bored female dom around. You'll be afraid, very afraid.    |
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