“The interesting thing to Come out of It was L having a strong erotic feeling from being touched when she knew she probably shouldn’t.”
It really started with nothing to do with couples or Swinging or anything of the sort.
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In this two Part serial our friends B&L tell their real experience - the transition from a happily married professional couple to a happily married professional 'Lifestyle' couple. We are so grateful to them for sharing their story with us.
For many years we have dabbled with occasional, light bondage. No pain, light whip and spanking, just for a bit of fun and variety. We slowly bought some accessories and S & M leather clothing and ended up with some nice stuff that we would get out once every three or four months or when the Kids were not Home.
It has always been very respectful loving and intimate for us. We both hate the idea of hurting anyone in any form, so as time wore on and our comfort level increased I was able to ask for a bit more power in the whip, as I have a much higher threshold than L. We have always been turned on by each others pleasure. Our trust in each other is absolute and we value that at the most complete level. We NEVER shared this level of bedroom intimacy with anyone and didn’t want to.
Anyway, we were more than happy with each other, our life together our kids, house and professions. Nothing has changed but we have recently had some amazing and absolutely wonderful experiences that I certainly did not expect.
It sort of started when I told L I had once heard of a place in Sydney where you could hire a dungeon. We looked it up on the net and L was freaked. “We couldn’t possibly, it looks too serious, heavy stuff, etc etc. Both being adventurous by nature and always curious we came to the conclusion it would only be us doing what we do at home and it could be kind of sexy fun and we Left it at that.
The next big shift for me and us as a couple came over dinner in a fine restaurant. We had had great steaks, red wine and were looking over the Brisbane river. I was in a silly sexy sort of mood and I said to L “I feel so pumped, fun and horny I could just about fuck that waiter and I don’t even like him much”. Fortunately L saw the fun side of it and it started our new favorite game we call ‘would you, could you?’ The rest of the night was spent looking at couples trying to find someone we would or could. A highlight of that night for me was L picking out the head waitress and telling me she definitely would and could. Wow. Of course that night finished with some really hot stuff at home, and that was pretty much it for a while.
Months later and just a couple of weeks ago, a Friend offered to look after the kids for a few days. That gave us the chance to get away together, Sydney and the dungeon were on the top of the list. New years eve we spent with friends and lots of booze, me being cheeky flirtatious and a bit out of order, as usual, started a bit of gentle group bum groping and me skinny dipping in the pool.
When our male friend missed out, I suggested he better grope L as I had been groping his wife. The night ended with all of us of feeling we drank a bit too much but it was lots of fun and no harm done. The interesting thing to come out of it was L having a strong erotic feeling from being touched when she knew she probably shouldn’t. From that night we knew we should never do that with long term friends but it was a lot of fun.
Then it was ‘maybe we could have a look at this in Sydney’, where no one knows us and we can be totally anonymous for three short days in our 22 years together. “How about we go to a swingers club and just have a look.”. Fortunately, we had already got over a lot of fear type issues with the Dungeon thing so we ‘only’ had to talk about how we could cope if we actually had sex with other people .I honestly didn’t know how I would feel. I did feel a little bit of everything. Scared, jealous, inadequate and horny as Hell all at the same time.
We tried to make our own set of rules of what we would be comfortable with. My comfort was ‘it is only a couple of days in the context of our 22 years together and our relationship is strong enough to cope with most things. We have an amazing ability to be honest and transparent with each other and even when we are struggling with something we have learnt to “fight fair” and continue to honour and respect each other. Hopefully L will write further on these issues because it is our history and years of hard work and personal growth that has allowed the great times ahead to happen with relative ease.
L’s comfort was a full commitment that either of us could speak out at any time and say I am uncomfortable, stop that, at any time and we would honour it without repercussion. Not being able to think much deeper or know how I would feel, we agreed to just go there and see how it panned out.
January 2008
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In Part 2 which we'll publish next week, B tells of their first experience in a Couples Club. He talks about their thoughts and feelings when they finally decided they would go, when they first arrived at the club and later when they were no longer 'Swirgins'. It's a great read and we hope you can come back for some more.
"Hopefully L will write further on these issues because it is our history and years of hard work and personal growth that has allowed the great times ahead to happen with relative ease."
Would you L - please - I would love ot hear your thoughts on this???
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