| The 'Typical' Lifestyle Couple |
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| Sunday, 13 January 2008 | |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
  The typical swinger couple really like? Over dinner with some friends we talked about what characterises the typical Swinger Couple.
The typical
But why? Sure, there are plenty of exceptions to these generalisations. Not everyone will have a tick in every box. Neither does Aged 35 - 45 Perhaps this is the simplest one to fathom. In order to fit into the other categories Self Employed or Financially Independent There are plenty of possible explanations for this one. The way we do it, i.e. the way we Perhaps it goes a little deeper than that. Perhaps the only people who want to expand their boundaries are the sort of people who are in control of their Consider this: If you are in a position in your life when you can pretty much get whatever you want. You know that if you want something all you need to do is work for it, plan for it, organise it, and it will happen. Maybe it's the same in your relationship. You are in a good place with your partner. You know each other well, and you want to expand your horizons. For a lot of people, the taboo elements of having sex with other people might prevent you from This could be very contentious. I'm not even sure of it myself. We have friends in the Lifestyle with every level education from failing high school to PhDs. It just seems the typical swinger has some sort of education past high school. Perhaps this is like the other traits is just part of a bigger package. In order to have some of the other traits, at least one of the couple has to be well educated. I suppose the education is not a necessity. It may help a little with some of the mind tricks we Teenage Children Those of us with children devote a large part of our lives to raising the children. As the children get older their needs change and the demands on our time change too. Perhaps the free time goes into developing our own relationships. As the children get older we find more and more times when we are at We call it a little party. The Also there is the argument, that if you have been in a relationship foraround 20 years, there will be teenage children. It's just a matter of time. I am not saying you have to have teenage kids to swing. I am just saying you likely will have. This one is easy. You would have to be a very special person to have sex with others in the first few months of a new relationship. I cannot see how you could be in s stable but new relationship if you are still having sex with other people. It could damage the important bonds that arise directly from making love early in a relationship. On the other hand, if you have been together for 10 - 20 years then you know some things. You know that no one can care for you the way your primary partner does. You know that your primary partner can take care of your sexual needs in a way no one else can. Most impotantly you know that your primary partner isn't going to run off with the first person they have non-monogamous sex with. You trust them. After 10 - 20 years together, there isn't much you haven't done either. Its not that the spark that kindled your relationship has gone out. It could still be a roaring fire. But you have expressed yourselves in just about every way possible. The natural next step isto get other people involved. Your aren't replacing your partner, you are just expanding possibilities. Body Images Issues? - But who doesn't? Who doesn't have a few wrinkles they would rather not be there. A few saggy bits they would rather not have turned south. None of these seriously affect how you feel about yourself. When you think hard about it, none of these affect how any of your sex partners feel about you either. But regardless, you still would rather things were different in an ideal world. Many of our swinger friends comment way too harshly about themselves. Many our swinger friends look much better naked than they do There is nothing surer than being naked with friends to accentuate the differences. But in the end no one really cares. --- So what of all of this? Absolutely nothing. You don't have to score three out of five on the typical swinger scale to be open minded and happy. None of this is essential. But don't be suprised when the couple you end up in bed with has many of the same traits as you. The most important characteristics I forgot to mention above is that you all HOT - damn HOT!   
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I could be justififably accused of some gross generalisations, but here goes. 
Reasonable Education 
Decades Together 
And we don't have a cushy little 
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