So nothing to do on Saturday night, We didn't fancy The club so I had the bright idea of going to a singles venue - I managed to find one that was on in Parramatta RSL (classy eh) and after some conversation we decided to go as singles!
On the way we decided if It was really crappy we would drop in at the lotus so we called Naomi to let her know. Naomi had a Friend over and was half cut, luke asked me to ask her if she wanted to Come with us and her partner said yes, she will be ready in Half hour.. Luke dropped me off first and I went into the place, parted with 15 bucks and went into a hall / function room and sat down. There were a few people there and it began to fill quickly with lots of men and a splattering of women. Funny enough most seemed to be couples holding hands! I bought a drink for myself and the barmaid said that most blokes would be too scared to come over and talk to me as I was not the usual type who came in!!! Uh oh... didn't make me feel too great at all.
I went outside for a smoke and got chatting to 3 blokes about soccer - they were all married and their wives did not know they planned to go upstairs to the singles place - I simply told them I thought that was dishonest and explained that My Husband had dropped me off and was coming back with his 2 girlfriends! Now didnt their jaws drop at that one! Luke had two girls on his arm and went off dancing with Naomi - it was all great if You took away where we were and with a room full of singles who knew not how to have fun!
I went back upstairs and asked why there was so many couples and they told me that they allowed it as the people met at the place - weird, but each to his own. No sooner had I sat down and the men started to circle but not one said hello... to be honest when I said hello to the single men there they simply didn't have the social skills to converse on the most basic level at all and I came away thinking I now knew why they were single!
Before too long I met luke, naomi and friend at the bar. We kept up the pretence of not knowing each other and chatted for a while, I was trying to escape an Indian man who was being very persistant and decidedly interested (one sided I can assure you!) he also needed to not eat garlic on a day that you go out!!!
I hung out with Luke and co for a while and went out for another ciggie and got chatting to this woman and the 3 blokes again. She was quite interesting and I took her number... One of the guys was 6 foot 5 and huge, all muscle (smelt a bit funny though - had a boyfriend who took steroids and I recognized the smell) he asked to meet my hUsband - I really don't think they believed the type of relationship we have so they followed me upstairs where I introduced Luke... the bloke took hold of Lukes hand and started pumping it (bear in mind he was also pissed) and then he kissed luke on the cheek and called him BUBBA! Hmmm he would not kind of let go and the minute he did luke and I had seen enough so we decided to leave! We went down do the girls could finish their drinks and we Left. What a crap plave with uninteresting narrow minded people with no sense of etiquette or politeness. Nothing. You can see why some people are single - add to that the average age was 50+ - we will not be going back!
We all decided to go to ARQ a gay club where you can dance your cares away - by the time we got there they queue was so long and about 5 deep we said No, lets call it a night...
Girls being girls, Naomi and I needed a wee so we stopped in at lotus lounge - I ran in had a wee then wanted a sneaky peak upstairs - lots of action there I can tell you ; )
Naomi's friend told us all night that her boyfriend (works away) is allowed to do what he wants (she doesn't like it) and she is allowed to do nothing! She wouldn't come into the club as he would not "like it" so she sat in the car with Luke. As we came out of the dooor we met them just about to go in, seems she changed her mind! But we were ready to go so she missed her chance lmao!
Alll in all it was great to take Naomi out but I would seriously consider everything if we ever went to another singles thing again - In this instance I might try it again but somewhere closer to Home, after all they cannot all be like that can they.
Can they?
Yesterday I had Coffee with a friend, we had luch at the pub with her partner and Luke went fo a ride to Bicentenial park with TT - halfway through he met with others at a swingers picnic _ Kids were invited and we did talk about going. Luke text me and told me he was there and he was all ok and not to worry about coming, he was fine and dandy being the "single" male at the event Lol
Next time hopefully we can both make it but he had a Ball by himself so maybe I will miss the next one too lol
The difference between him going as a single to the picnic and being at a singles even was enormous - you see, swingers take care of themselves, they can converse with all types of people, they don't feel they have to get pissed to have fun, they share and invite people into their converstaions, they share everything they do... oh the differences are amazing!!!
What a shitty rainy day It is - I am still in bed, No one knows I am awake so I am taking this time to catch up on The blog..
Apart from wednesday being cialis day (more later) we were off on a single but double date - all day Luke and I talked about what we felt, how we thought it would go, whether it would be as good and also whether we all four could gain anything from the whole experience. We felt like naughty schoolkids and were very silly with each other all day in between winding up and headfucking with each other!
The time came to get ready and Luke let TT Play with his shaving foam and I let TT into the shower with me - we both realized after that it was a feeling of guilt that we were feeling that allowed us to say yes to almost anything he asked - weird but funny.
We set off and drove to the destination, Peter and I had booked the tables, one at the front and one at the back of the restaurant - this was so if anyone felt uncomfortable we could just join the other table..
Driving to the place Luke and I talked hypotheticals (we always do this) and discussed how we felt, I felt dirty and wanted him to see my list of things I wanted to talk to Peter about (have to keep a list on my phone otherwise I forget) the normal deadly traffic was nowhere to be found and we were early!!! SHIT - this was where I was really crossing my own boundaries, I was meeting Peter at a bar and he was dropping Jill off at Lukes appointed place then coming on to meet me (I still don't know where they actually met - I just know they walked a fair way) I found it hard to leave Luke in the car, it felt very strange to me at that time that he was dropping me off in a strange place to meet someones elses partner, but in the end Luke told me he did not want to be late, laughed and told me to get out of the car - I felt a sudden urge of "yes, I can, I want to, I will do this" and hopped out. He said something funny as I closed the door so in true Paula fashion I flipped him the finger and went into the wrong door of the bar lmao
I bought a glass of wine and went through to the smoker area to wait. Checked my phone - nothing, all was well. A young guy in his early 30's came up and asked if he could share an ashtray with me and we got talking, he was an army lad from QLD and was doing an ethics course down the road at the army base, before long we were deep in conversation and I met his 3 mates who were sitting on the other side of the open wall. We were so deep in conversation that when he asked for my phone number I gave it to him (oh how easy I am) mind You, if any of you know me well you will also know that I don't know my number and often get it wrong - later I found I had indeed given him the wrong number (note to self learn the NO word) we chatted away talking politics (WTF!) and also the situation in Iraq (yeah I lost the plot I think) when Peter turned up - we said hello, the army guy went a strange colour and pater asked if he could buy me a drink, we went to the bar together and then back to where we were before and no sign of my new found friends! Lol
Peter and I finished our drinks and walked to the restarant - hmmm no sign of Luke and Jill anywhere, I did feel very upset at that point and it was only when Peter told me that they were seated upstairs that we talked about it and I realised it was all good. I had no idea there was an upstairs and for a fleeting moment I was not happy that I would not be able to see them at all. Peter asked if I wanted to go closer to them and after a moment I said no, this was probably better for all of us.
We chatted, shared wine and food which was wonderful and discussed us, how we felt, everything and anything. We went out for a ciggie and met Jill and Luke and would have a quick chat before heading back off again. At one time I was waiting for the toilet and as Jill came out we stood and stared at each other not having a clue whether to talk openly or not and she walked off and the waiter was looking at us both and I asked if her name was Jill, I thought I might know her - he said "Oh no, her name is Paula, she is with her Husband upstairs" lmao what a head fuck that was!!!
Peter and I didnt really eat much but made up for it in the wine he chose, very expensive and just amazing... desert was not on the menu and the idea from the start was to have Coffee together - Peter asked for the bill then we Left the restaurant! We decided to just drive and get coffee at the place Luke and I always go to - a gay owned 24 hour place full of vitality and always packed where we could sit outside.We walked for what seemed like miles to the car to find Peter was driving Jills car - now that did feel strange - Having dinner/dating/fucking her Husband is not strange but being in her car with him was - not sure why though hmm will think more on that one!
Peter got a call from Jill asking where we were - On hindsight we should have waited but I have not really had chance to speak to them about that yet...
NOW this is the strange part... I found out later Luke and Jill had a Ball together, Peter and I had a ball together... when we got together for coffee, I think the Urst had built up to such a crescendo that it all became far too much.This was a date not a play date, Maybe I wanted it to become a playdate but it was not on the cards.. I got out of my happy a little and asked Luke if we could go Home. Luke and I have talked about little else since wednesday - whoops just been caught Luke has Come up and found me typing away - didnt bring me tea though!!
Would I do it again? Yes, already asked Peter! Would I change things? Yes, how? wait and see lol
BTW yes, the cialis worked - very quick to orgasm but need to take it once again for more results (he he he)
So after talking to a few people I have decided to take a 20mg of cialis - yep a whole tablet. That was an hour ago and I feel kind of light headed and I am very flushed!
Now this could be because while I was nudie sunbathing Luke sent me a dirty text saying he wanted me there and then (even though The handy man was in the next room) and to make It worse he came upstairs, spread my legs and started Playing with my piercing ... I pushed his thumb into me and had to stop - yep! needed to be quiet so Dave the handy man would not hear! Added to that the lady across the road runs a swim school and every mother for miles would have heard!!!
Anyway we will see what happens with the cialis - looks like I have been slapped around the face about 20 times!
Eldest Expensive daughter (23) told me she knew about the g shot (it's been around the UK for sometime) and said in an email "Oh, god Mum please tell me You are not going to have it" Lol then worryingly she told me she wouldn't mind having it... need to talk to her about her sex life me thinks... they have had a tough time since they got married (In March) so will chat with her on Sunday and ask why she wants it!
Tonight we are going out with friends.. well Luke is going to meet the Friend (we will call her Jill) and I am going to meet her Husband Peter at a separate place, we will then go to the same restaurant but have tables far apart - I think we have the front table and them the back!
Not quite non Vanilla but not quite not either... it is a talking session... we have been with this couple exclusively for some time and I feel it is important to talk seriously every now and again... more on that later!
You and your partner are very sexually open to most things, your female partner turns to you and says "I want to orgasm easier and quicker and I want It to be more intense" what would you say?
Well according to latest medical news there is something that Doctors can do to help woman achieve this. It is called The G shot and benefits any woman but especially women who find it hard to orgasm vaginally - How?
Under a local anesthesia the Doctor uses a special speculum to deliver the collagen straight into the G spot causing it to enlarge and thus making orgasm easier - in just one study 87% of women reported enhanced sexual arousal/gratification - how cool is that Ladies?
Results do of course vary but the shot should last for four months - after that I guess most would be banging on the door for more... The bad news is it is expensive (800 pounds sterling - will ask our Doc for pricing and report back for Au) and for the same price many women say Viagra or cialis works just as well (going to try cialis this week and report back) But I did find it encouraging that Doctors are finding ways to enhance womens performance as well as mens!
Talking about Doctors - My own personal Doctor performed my sexual health checks a few weeks back and I and Luke are all clear (we didnt expect anything different) excepting my cholesterol is too high (hmmm not happy) but we got talking and as I told all about our Lifestyle she said she would be interested, really interested in coming onto the site to answer any questions any of us may have about sexual health or things concering the lifestyle - now this is a first. We are the ONLY site (sounding familliar to QLD'ers?) to have our own Doc on board!
Must not forget to mention a huge hello to all our new members - please say hi, we are all in the same boat and like an arc we can accomodate all!
Luke is sitting in a pub on The other side of Sydney as I write having a drink with the male half of our extra friendly "friends"! The amazing part of this is that they are in a pub, yes, Luke is in a pub after work!!! This is the first time I have ever known him to do this - EVER!
So I sit and wonder what they are talking about, what discussions they are having.. what the fuck can they talk about for this long??? Lol they are very good friends and I know they can talk about anything for hours on end so this leaves me wondering what the Feamle half of the other couple is doing (from now on we will call her Pip) so I text her (still in amazement) and she is doing work stuff... funny how comfortable we all can be, after all It was not that long ago that Luke and I decided that we would never go beyond a certain point in our Swinging (we are well beyond that point now ; )
Tonight also gave me a chance to chat with Teenage mutant and her Friend.. amazing stuff again! Bear in mind they are all 16
* one thinks she may be pregnant * one is having a 3 way sexual ride (ffm) * one has a BF who takes E"s regularly * one is a serial Slut ( as many as she can in a month!) * one who drinks (knew about this one - I get the mother on phone asking why???
We often see very young people at the club who really have No idea - the couple on Friday night who went upstairs with another couple and came back down after a chat then straight into it without barely speaking to the other couple and swapped without any protection whatsoever!!! These 4 people were young - I ask myself WHY WERE You THERE??
Then I think why not? what makes them different?
Funny way to separate me from "them" but why so young? Tasting it while it's young? Like a fine wine most are better when they are older, wiser and full bodied (not fat! - insensitive... but it is my blog so GTH)
Also I think I found a Mate on twitter... his name is "stonedbonobo" and I asked hm one question and he blogged within the hour about it and also thanked me.... HI bobo - PLEASE KEEP GOING! MWAHHH I admire anyone who blogs about the Lifestyle, it takes courage but also means you have something to say... descicions to make.. spelling to be corrected! lol BUT more background may be needed (this will be coming here very soon)
He is one of the few twitterers I follow. as he is true to his word and is a humerous writer ( I aspire to be like him) I thank you bobo x
I have to go now...
My man is returning from the pub lmao after a few lemonades too many lol - please check out bobo - hassle him for pics of him and his wife and say where you got the www from!
If we do not comment on peoples blogs, they die. There are many very good lifestylers who blog and dive... all because no one made an effort... think about it folks!
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